Thursday, October 28, 2010

Instant gratification and No commitment

Instant gratification and No commitment

Instant gratification and No commitment

People today are looking for instant gratification without considering others or the consequences. They are reluctant or lacking any intention of making a commitment and abiding by that commitment.

Politicians are known for saying the right things at the right time with no real intentions of believing in what they say or the desire to adhere to their promises. It is all for show in front of the Media and the public. Everything has to do with what is politically correct, whether it is the right thing to do or not. Money, economic benefits, fame and power are the controlling interest. The honest concern for the public is covered up with make believe and illusion of responding to public outcry.

Many of the causes are; Peer pressure, living up to the joneses and today’s fast moving society and technology.

The technology we grew up with could easily have cultivated a "now or never" attitude, a predilection for instant gratification that no previous generation had to encounter.

It is time to look beyond self interest, fame and glory. It is time for a conviction to do what is right and ethical for the public interest with no hidden agenda. It is time to regain the trust of the public with honesty, integrity and true intentions and deeds for the public benefit.

Do not look for the quick fix, the best and lasting fix takes strong resolve, hard work, determination and perseverance to accomplish the ultimate goal on behalf of all humanity.

YJ Draiman


You have young people who want instant gratification, and do not have the patience and sacrifice to help achieve those goals.

We won't experience instant gratification. We must sow before we reap; we must invest before we get a return. In other words, we must lose before we gain; we must give up time before we can experience intimacy with anyone.

In a culture where "instant gratification" and "what is in it for me" ... The word you are searching for in that definition is commitment.

The American society and its astonishing attainments have been built mainly upon the burning desires of individuals to achieve their dreams and the freedoms afforded by the society to realize those dreams. The immigrants who reached the shores of America with dreams to labor and live well were not fettered with negative ideologies or concepts but were egged on by a forceful “can-do culture”. To the entrepreneurs pursuing their dreams no river was deep enough, no mountain high enough to thwart their march in pursuit of their dreams.
By any standard, the landing of man on the moon, the Internet, the satellite communication and a host of other technological advances are no less than miracles of the modern age with America contributing the most to these miracles.
While the innovations are all laudable, as they have made life easier and longer, they have also wrought certain malevolent changes. The sequence of desire-effort-patience-fulfillment has been overtaken by a culture of instant gratification that has dropped the element of patience from the natural process, giving rise to distortions, harmful side effects and a set of debatable values.


YJ Draiman said...

Giving in to the need for Instant Gratification generally lowers your quality of life; generally speaking. You will notice that most of the great things that happened in history, most of the huge fortunes that were made, most of the huge successes all happened over a period of years. If you find someone who is really successful, someone that has made a ton of money and who has a lot of influence, maybe owns a lot of Real Estate or whatever it is...... You will usually find that they earned it or they accomplished it over a long period of time. Unless they inherited it or they married it or whatever.

You will also notice that if they didn't earn it over a long period of time and they just get it, they usually figure out a way to get rid of it. They usually figure out a way to lose it because their Self Image isn't inline with what it took to get it. They didn't know how to get it in the first place so once they have it, it is immediately taken from them by people that have a greater vision.

I would like to give you all a new context for life and this is one you are going to have to program yourself with. In this new context the kinds of results that you desire like financial and relationship success are most effectively created over longer time frames. Since humans aren't wired to to delay gratification and think in longer time frames we usually sabotage our own success at one point or another by contaminating our own plan with short term thinking. In other words... we start saving money in the piggie bank and then one day we get hungry so we smash it open and go spend the money and eat some fast food.

It is critically important that you learn to think in time frames of a year or more and then put a concerted effort everyday in pursuit of your objective. You are going to live the rest of your life in the future; so make your future great; now.

YJ Draiman for City Council said...

We must take responsibility for our actions if we are to succeed

“To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.” When you start realizing that you alone are responsible for your own life, then things start getting better. It might be scary at first, because now you do not have anyone else to blame. However, there is a level of freedom associated with taking responsibility for your life. “The price of greatness is responsibility.” There is some point in your life where you can no longer be persuaded by what the crowd is doing. You can no longer feel comfortable with the status quo. You have this feeling deep within you that there is more to life and that, “if it is to be, it is up to me.” That day is a very good day, because you have just learned a major secret to life. You are the creator of your own destiny and only you can make your dreams come true. “Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.”

Family, Honesty and morality are the foundation of society.